Welcome to my top tips for practicing self love blog post, where we will look a bit deeper at self love and how to get started.
Self love is all over the place at the minute.
When most people think of self love, they think of luxurious bubble baths, candles, meditation and music. While all those things can be used in practicing self love, it goes much deeper than what anyone can see.
It is a feeling. It is embracing those feelings. It is looking deeply at yourself. It is acceptance and gratitude.
So where to start.
Here are my top tips for practicing self love.
1. Carve out time for yourself.
I cannot stress how important this is.
Fill your bucket, before you set about filling other peoples, be it family members or friends / work colleagues.
Do not feel guilty for this either. If you are anything like me, with a busy lifestyle trying to balance work and family time, then taking time for yourself can feel uncomfortable. I used to feel selfish and incredibly guilty. Even though at times I knew I needed “me time” so desperately.
In this time … just be. Do something you enjoy, anything at all, even if it’s just for 15 minutes. Having that time to yourself will make the world of difference.
My bath times now have changed drastically from what they used to be. But I digress, that is another blog post.
Just write, anything that is to do with you. Don’t fill it with work things or family issues or achievements. This journal is just for you. Your own feelings, about you.
There are two reasons to journal, the first is that it will help you get things off your chest and see things clearly.
Also it is good to have everything written down, then you can look back on your journey and see how far you have come.
Meditation is a powerful tool, which I am just getting to know.
Follow some guided meditation videos, or simply count your breath. You can also breathe in positive words and breathe out the same words. You can say them of just think them. Whatever words you feel like you need to hear at that particular time.
Meditation will help you along your journey by focusing your mind and allowing you to look deeply into your true self and really explore.
4. Positive words / affirmations.
You may have heard of this before or seen it in films or tv shows, and cringed. I know I did. There was a well known show that I used to be obsessed with (oh who are we kidding, I am still obsessed with) called Sex and the City. I remember one of the characters went to a positivity workshop, and she was doing affirmations in the mirror. That whole scene just made me cringe, and honestly pity women who felt they needed to do that. (I was younger, judgemental and naive.)
Now I see the benefits of this. I can see how this could work. Saying positive things about yourself, to yourself. Being kind to yourself and pointing out things about your body or the person you are, that you love.
Saying things that make you feel confident and worthy! Yup I am all for that!
So let’s do this shall we!? Yes we may feel awkward and embarrassed and we may not, but if we do let’s push through all of that and see where it takes us!
I hope you enjoyed this blog post.
Have a great day!